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Friday, December 14, 2007

This weekend I will be joyful

(Image is from the Joyful Voices of Inspiration, a gospel choir from Massachusetts. I've said this before, but even though I am not a Christian, I really love the sound and the feelings that gospel music produces. The feeling fits with this post.)

Hey, I've tried to focus on good and right behavior before: tact, friendliness, and humility (humbleness?) have come and gone with varying degrees of success (or in the case of tact, failure.)
This weekend, I decided that doing the obvious, considering the time of year, makes a lot of sense. So this weekend, I will be joyful. So much is contained in the word joy.
Joy is that inner sense of happiness, contentment, right-feeling, lovingness and lovableness. Being joyful means that I will tap into those feelings, that I really do have (I'm not faking anything here) and attacking life with the energy and emotion that comes from them.
But maybe I'm cheating because I'm taking the day off from work...
Nah. I've got things to do. No lazing around the television or burrowing into a book for me today. I've got shopping to do. I've got to reorg my sock drawer again (I have far too many for only two feet.) It's cold and foggy outside. There's little chores to be done. I just need to tap those positive feelings and stay joyful.
The real test, though, comes when something bad happens. Like, say, I get a flat tire on my Honda.
(Oh, that's right, I haven't told you about my 05 Honda Accord Hybrid. Lovely car. Lots of power, roomy, comfortable, all the bells and whistles, navigation, XM...except...get this...I didn't notice when I bought it because I, like you, would take this for granted...it does not have a...this is embarrassing...it does not have a spare tire. Nothing. Not even one of those fake hard rubber ones. Don't think I don't think about that when setting out on a long trip, at night, in the rain.)
So, when I get a flat tire in the Honda, will I be joyful? Well, that won't be the emotion that I lead with, but I should be able to remain positive and upbeat. I'll need to call someone...Honda roadside assistance comes to mind. I'll have the opportunity to be still and think about the trade off of a hybrid versus having a spare tire. Mostly, though, I'll be happy enough and smart enough not to let the inconvenience of the problem ruin my day and my feelings.
I will tell you that this particular condition makes me sensitive about checking things like treadwear and tire pressure.
Being joyful is about appreciation of what you have and who you are. It's about feeling the sadness and the unhappiness over something and then letting it go. It's about understanding that what happens to us, good or bad, is an opportunity for personal growth. Hey, if you have to do an unpleasant task, at least have the decency to tackle the task with joy. Doing it with negative feelings really harms no one but you.
Let's see how I hold up this weekend.

19 comments:

Anonymous said...

Let us know how this weekend works out...joyful, eh? If it goes well for you, maybe I will tackle next weekend with joy.

The Happy Guy said...

No sooner had I finished posting than my cell phone starting ringing with calls from work. Frustrating.

Then we went to dinner only to be seated after a 30 minute wait at a pub table. No problem, the place was smoke-free. We were starving so we ordered drinks and main courses immediately and skipped the appetizer. We got the drinks in a few minutes (except for Jocelyn...it took another half hour for that.)

After 30 minutes with no food, we flagged down someone to get a manager. At that point we discovered that the kitchen didn't even know we had ordered. Another twenty minutes and we finally received our meals. By now it is 8:40 pm and a sporting goods store where we were headed was scheduled to close at 9. The manager covered the entire meal, plus deserts (which we took home.)

A couple of the waitstaff were apologetic, but they were concerned that we were blaming them. Another young man, a waiter, was much better. he acknowledged the mistakes, apologized, and asked for another chance. I would have been reluctant to ever go there again, but I liked his attitude and approach to the problem.

Then we discovered that the sporting goods store was staying open until 11 p.m. So, we were tired, but we did some important Christmas shopping.

Through it all, while I wasn't exactly joyful, I did maintain my composure and let things happen. We were slightly inconvenienced, but we received a free meal, delicious deserts (or so I'm told by Jocelyn and Monica,) and we still made it to the store.

There's something to this joyful thing.

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